Are you too busy to fix your anxiety?
You will have heard it all before;
- slow down
- take breaks
- get a hobby
and I hear it everyday, from people like you – “I’m too busy to do all of that.” It’s your choice, but think of this, there are not too many people at the end of their life, think “I wish I had worked more.”
Are you really in control of your life?
Is it you that makes the choices, or does it feel like you are a mouse on a treadmill, going through the motions? Most of us like to think we are in control of the things we do everyday, and the decisions we make, but if any of the following questions are familiar to you, it may be other things that are ruling your life.
- Do you feel guilty if you are relaxing?
- Is your mind constantly racing; going over all the things you have to do?
- If you do relax, do you feel you should be doing something else and find it hard to sit still?
- Do you offer to do more things in your day, than you have time to do?
- Do you find it hard to say no?
- Do you feel you should be doing more?
If you have answered yes, to some of these questions, you may not be as in control as you think.
Too stressed to calm down; too busy to stop.
Stop and think about that statement above for a few minutes.
Too stressed to calm down. It is like trying to run on a broken leg and wondering why it hurts!
Too busy to stop. Busy doing what? That is not a rhetorical question. Take some time and think about it – what is it that you are busy doing?
I am guessing you can come up with a list of things – work, housework, errands.
If your list is taking up all of your day, are the tasks all so urgent that they need to be completed in one day? Work – I am way ahead of you. I often hear people saying, well work is different, it has to be done, and I agree. However, if your work is taking up most of your day, you might need to sit down and look at exactly what it is you are trying to squeeze into one working day.
Many people can stand back from what they are doing, and realize that they are trying to accomplish too much in one day, but are unable to stop.
This brings me back to my point – are you really in control?
It might feel like a choice to keep doing the things that you are doing, but, lets say for arguments sake, you wanted to reduce what you do in a day. Do you feel that you could make that choice or would you feel, guilty, worried, anxious?
If you answered yes to any of those, welcome to the club – you are human, and the human brain can make you do some things that are not necessarily good for you, but it feels easier to keep going, than wrestle with wondering why you cannot make changes that might help you in the long run.
If you cannot make the choice, then it could be that guilt or worry (or whatever it is for you) is driving you to do too much.
Step back up into the driving seat and take control.
Understanding what is really driving you, helps you to take the steps you need to learn to relax and get things in perspective again.
If you are interested in gaining control, more information on retraining your brain can be found here.