Anticipatory Anxiety is where you get a stress response when there is nothing in your immediate environment that can cause you harm. Or put another way, the sensations and worry that you feel have evolved to protect you from real danger, but because you have the capacity for thought, they can arise due to the […]
Don’t practice the bad thoughts; What you think, you become
Regardless of whether it is good or bad, whatever you are mentally rehearsing, can become your reality! What you think, you become – what do I mean by this? It’s all about mental rehearsal, for the point of explanation, try to think of this as practising a skill. For example, if you were learning […]
Repay the good behaviour, not the bad
I saw a post on Facebook this morning which said I always say you’re welcome really loud when people don’t say thank you. and a comment agreeing with the statement, saying yes I hate it when people are rude. Are you not being rude yourself by saying you’re welcome loudly? Let me explain my point […]
Kindness and Compassion
Yesterday I mentioned the importance of compassion when I was writing about how we over react to everyday stress and I thought I’d explain today the importance of compassion and kindness. The best way I know to explain this is to give a scenario. If you’ve been in session with me you’ve probably heard this before, but […]
When stressing over something, is it really that urgent?
I really mean that as a question. Take a minute and think about all the things you stress over. It could be money, your work, kids, family, whether people like you are not. Now I am not dismissing these worries, but I hope to get you to think about them, not only differently, but less. […]
You have anxiety. What now?
You might have read on my site that I had anxiety myself, so I want to do the best I can for you, and this might be working with someone else, that’s okay, but I shall tell you what I have learnt over the past 17 years in psychology and having had anxiety myself. Your […]
Counselling for the average Irish Man
If you’re a man and wondering what it’s like to work with me ….Read onI am not a ‘touchy feely’ psychologist and I won’t be balancing your chakras any time soon. Counselling for men I am practical, a problem solver, I won’t be a shoulder to cry on, I will work with you to help […]
Counselling – what to expect
I cannot of course, speak for other therapists, who offer counselling, so the following is specific to how I personally chose to work. The first meeting. The first time we meet is where I take time to find out what your current difficulty is. This is not just a meeting where I listen, although, of […]