No woman wants to be classified as the side chick in a relationship and just the thought that you might be such probably has you confused and hurt. After all, once you get that thought in your head, it seems like no matter how hard you try to convince yourself that you are the only woman in the relationship, you begin to magically start seeing signs that your guy is cheating. Yes, it’s true that your guy may really be committed elsewhere, but it might not be true either! There surely are men who will go to all lengths to ensure that they can shuffle as many women as possible, but there are also men that will not.
The following are sure signs that he may be cheating in your relationship.
1. He doesn’t connect to you through social networks.
If your guy uses social networking, but for some reason does not want you to connect with him, you should smell a rat right away. You should be alarmed if he makes up flimsy excuses as to why you cannot follow him on Twitter, LinkedIn, or be his friend on Facebook. If he blocks everything to ensure that you cannot connect via social networks, this could be because one of the easiest way to get caught being a cheater is through social networks. Not every guy is into social networking, but if your guy is and is just being shady, nail him on it.
2. He switches off his phone whenever he is with you.
No one actually turns off their phones nowadays, so if his phone is always off when he is with you, it should be a wakeup call to you that he doesn’t want somebody contacting him to find out about his whereabouts. Never fall for the commonly used “I want to concentrate only on you” trick. You should also be suspicious if your man is over protective of his phone. If he has set a password on his phone and locks it immediately after he has used it, you should be leery of him. His phone is certainly his business, but if he is doing such activities, it seems as if he is hiding something.
3. He is constantly busy.
He never gives you adequate time and when he does, it always during the same time each week. He only calls you when he is at work and rarely replies the texts you send him during evening hours. If he does, it is always late at night. When he promises to call you back, he does not until a few days have passed. These are clear signs that his concentration may be elsewhere.
4. You do not know where he lives and have never been to his house.
This is the biggest sign that he may be cheating and also one that most women tend to ignore. If he does not take you to his place after a couple months of dating, he could be trying to hide something. No matter how dirty the house is, most guys will invite you over. Regardless of whether he lives with roommates or he is still with his parents, it is only fair that he shows you where he lives. There is no real excuse for him to continue hiding his house from you, so if he keeps on giving you excuses, you might want to confront him about it.
5. You have never been introduced to his close friends or family.
The real woman in a man’s life always gets to hang out with his boys. She has also probably been introduced to his siblings and parents. This could be because his friends may snitch on him. If he always tells you funny stories about his family and does not let you meet them, he could be hiding something. Maybe he is embarrassed by his family, but at least you should meet his friends if you’d like.
If your guy is displaying such behaviors, it may be time to confront him on the issue. No woman deserves to be the “other woman” and it’s better to find out if you are as soon as possible so you can dump the guy and move on with your life. You deserve a wonderful man who is unattached elsewhere!