Are You Dealing With Jealousy in Your Relationship?
Jealousy can be the cause of an unhealthy relationship or the reason why a relationship has ended. A healthy relationship does not struggle with jealousy issues much, although it can be inevitable at times. In order to have a strong relationship, you must trust each other. With trust, jealousy is less likely affect you. If it does find its way in your relationship, the mature thing to do is address it in healthy ways and have a conversation with yourself and your partner. There are reasons as to why jealousy pops up and finding out the reason it creeps in can certainly help your relationship.
Let’s take a look at some of the reasons jealousy can infiltrate a relationship:
Low self-esteem. The number one cause of jealousy is low self-esteem or low self-worth. If you feel that you are not worth loving, you are more apt to think that your partner is giving his or her love to another. Even if your partner claims to love you unconditionally, you will feel jealous or worried when they go out or give their attention to friends. Low self-esteem causes you to worry in relationships about your partner cheating or losing interest. In order to tame your jealousy, you must first evaluate whether it’s coming from low self-worth. If it is, work on growing your self-esteem by a journey toward self-love.
Is your jealousy all in your head? Sometimes in relationships, your mind can be the number one problem. When in love, your mind can go a little crazy because of all the emotions and feelings. This can bring jealousy into the relationship. Has your partner done something to make you not trust him? Has your partner cheated on you? Has your partner given you any reason at all to be jealous? If you answered no, then your jealousy may simply be all in your mind.
Learn to control your jealousy. Jealousy is a very common emotion. Chances are you will experience jealousy at some point in your life. Knowing how to deal with it now can be very beneficial to you and your relationship. First, figure out why you are jealous. If your jealousy comes because of something your partner is saying or doing, let him or her know. If your jealousy comes from low self-esteem, you must learn how you can boost your self-esteem. Second, you must come up with a way to control your jealousy. If it’s more in your mind, remind yourself that your partner loves you and has never done anything to hurt you. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love. It helps to write this down and reflect on it daily.
Jealousy can push couples apart due to the lack of trust and can sometimes be a deal breaker. Talk to your partner about how you are feeling so you can figure it out together. If you cannot get it under control, consider seeing a relationship therapist. Plenty of people have learned how to control jealousy with some time and effort. Take these tips into consideration, as you can have an incredible relationship built on trust.
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