It is your problems that are distracting you from your life!
People often say to me, when they start meditating, that it is a great distraction tool. That it gives them a welcome break from their problems.
I always reply, that it is the other way round. It is your problems that are the distraction and that stop you from participating in your own life.
If you are wondering what I mean, then let me explain.
Let’s take an example of always worrying about work. Maybe you have a problem with your boss, and find that this takes up a serious amount of your thought processes, then hey presto – you find meditation. You stop thinking about your boss. This is great, but don’t make the mistake that you have found a new distraction tool. You have found something more than that.
If you are thinking about work and what is happening with your boss, you probably find that you think about this, long after work has finished. On the way home, you may think about it. Over dinner, you might discuss it with your partner. Your friend might call round and you discuss your problem with them.
The point I am trying to get to is, although work has finished, you might as well have brought your boss with you – on the commute home, round your dinner table and then out with your friend.
I am presuming if you have a problem with your boss, that you do not feel light and happy in yourself, when talking about them at the dinner table and with your friend. What it really boils down to, is that the amount of headspace your problems with your boss takes up, distracts you from your commute home, dinner with your family, and enjoying the company of your friend.
It is how you are thinking about your problems, that is distracting you from what you are doing – your thoughts are distracting you from participating in your own life.
Meditation, specifically mindfulness, is quite simply, paying attention to what you doing, with no judgement. Paying attention to your commute home, paying attention to having dinner with your family, paying attention and enjoying some down time with your friend.
Meditation does not so much distract you from your problems, it helps you to focus on your life, and get out of your head.
Leave your boss at work, and pay attention to your own life in the evening – you will find that you feel much better without your boss in your head.