Our general idea of serenity is that of deep peace and happiness. Tranquility and a satisfied mind.
We tend to think of a serene person as someone who has achieved a perfect state of emotional control. We think, perhaps, they have ascended the worries and bothers of life. That’s all wrong.
Serenity is a state of calmness within a storm, not escape from the storm.
Stress reduction techniques, emotion management, critical thinking— these are all tools to lessen the burdens of sometimes chaotic daily life, but they cannot reshape the world around in a large sense.
Some problems must be experienced and endured.
That process of experience, of learning to keep centred and “upright” during life’s harder moments is how serenity is born.
It is a function of being centred. Serenity develops out of conflict’s hard-won lessons. No one, not a single soul—can become serene by avoiding the problems of life. That is not to say that we should not pick our fights. We need to do that.
We also need to avoid in indulging in gratuitous argument and dwelling on fruitless, emotionally laden arguments that have no good solutions.
Remember, serenity is a feeling we have that does not rely on a positive or happy outcome for us.
Serenity is a deeply held core belief that all things will turn out as they need to, as they must.
A serene person understands that everything is not going to go their way all the time, and that hardship may be preparing them for something much finer, in time.
Consider then our own serenity. It takes time to get there. It will be worth the trip