Some of you may know that I have not been seeing people in my office in Dublin, since late summer.
I said No. Most people didn’t notice, some gave me their support and some, well some need therapy!
Saying No, has helped me to make some of the best decisions of my life.
I said No, to relocate for a while, to look after a member of my family who became unwell.
This turned out to be the best decision I have ever made.
I am doing something that I consider worthwhile.
It has also allowed me to refocus on my own life and how I want to live it.
If I think about it, which I am doing now, I have watched myself change over the past few years. I am not the person that I thought I was going to be, and man, am I glad!
I spent 10 years or so in academia getting a ridiculous amount of degrees. My peers are doing extraordinary things all over the world, while I was pulling back.
I didn’t want it.
I am way over qualified for my private practice in Dublin, but that is what I wanted to do. I came from ‘sexy psychology’ doing ‘impressive things’ but that really doesn’t float my boat any more.
A few years ago I started working with some of you online, and more recently, offered courses. Peers thought I was mad, that I was going the wrong way in my career.
It is hard to go against the flow and swim upstream but that is exactly what I did.
These past few years prepared me for what I am now doing. Relocating for a while has allowed me to take stock.
It’s a cliche but one that is heartfelt; family are important, to me anyway. Relationships and health are important.
So I am saying No.
I do the work now that I want to do. I still have openings in my diary to work with people online, and continue with my courses as I am passionate about these. The one good thing about being over qualified is that I have way too much knowledge for what you actually want help with! This knowledge I put into my courses.
This is beginning to sound like a ‘why I left the rat race’ post, but it is certainly not that, as I left to care for someone while they are ill. But, in doing so, my life has completely transformed.
Some of you may not get what I am trying to say, but those of you who do; try saying No a bit more often.